Itchy Scalp! UGH

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Okay, so your hair is itchy. All you do is itch, itch, itch and it doesn’t stop. If you have weave you’ve probably killed a lot of brain cells from all the patting. Now, there are so many reason why your scalp is itchy but please rub instead of itch, you’re hurting your scalp and ripping out hair by scratching.

Back to reasons

  1. Your hair might be too tight. This is the main culprit in my eyes. Don’t let people tell you that itchy hair means it is growing (what kind of stupidness?!). Your hair is itchy, uncomfortable and it is not meant to be.
  2. Itchy scalp means your hair is unhealthy (especially the scalp). Your hair might look and feel great but face it, your scalp feels like it is on fire and healthy scalps do not itch. In order to eliminate the itch you need to restore your hair back to its healthy state.
  3. Its acidic state. Your scalp is naturally acidic and has a pH level of 4.5-5.5. An itchy scalp means your hair is getting more neutral or alkaline than acid. This can be cause by the products you use or product build up.
  4. Stress, obesity, sunburn can all contribute to your scalp being on fire.

Now my hair was itchy and I thought maybe my braids were too tight, maybe it was the way it was sewn or the weave itself. So i washed the weave and nothing changed. I had only just got my hair done but my mum beggggggggggged me to take it out because everyone at home was sick and tired of the patting.

I finally took it out and treated my hair however, it was still itchy! So i did some research on solutions for an itchy scalp.

  1. Aloe vera soothes any burning sensations that you might feel on your head.Naturally emollient and calming, it is a great balm for the scalp that will also soften the hair and feed your roots.
  2. Coconut oil , is apparently very effective with a few drops of tea tree oil. Tea tree oil is a triple threat to scalp irritations because of its anti-fungal, anti-viral and anti-bacterial properties. Again, Tea Tree Oil should not be used full strength and is best when used with a carrier oil which is in this case coconut oil.
  3. Apple Cider Vinegar. This is when you rinse hair with the vinegar.   Use one part water and one part vinegar and massage it into the scalp.   Leave on fifteen minutes and then rinse out. This should return your scalp to its acidic state.

Now, I tried one and two. I thought maybe my hair wasn’t moisturised so I moisturized some more with coconut oil. I used my leave in mix with aloe  vera but it felt like someone massaged pepper on my scalp. Then I remembered that not all shampoos wash hair probably and maybe I needed to strip my hair of everything ( I hadn’t done that in a while) using my Giovanni Triple threat shampoo along with the conditioner and leave in that it recommends.

The shampoo is for all hair types, increases scalp circulation for a refreshed, renewed feel, strengthens hair with a three-organic-all-blend to stimulate, condition and calms while alleviating dry, flaking scalp with organic tea tree botanicals. It also encourages natural shine and resilience and looks a little something like this:

This worked for me! I have probably only touched my hair 5 times tonight compared to thousands time that I did the night before. I would recommend using this once every 4-6 weeks depending on what you do to your hair. It does not cost much (fiver from eBay) and is definitely a staple product.

I went ahead to moisturise and seal as usual and tonight I will sleep in peace!

Now remember that everyone is different so these might not be the causes of or solutions to  your itchy scalp. If is a situation where you cannot stop and you have a sore and bumpy scalp please visit your GP.

(I haven’t been blogging lately because of EXAMS (ughhhhh) but I am back so if there is anything you want me to blog about let me know. My hair is officially 8 inches long and I have now being natural for a year since the level 1 BC lol *dances*)

Bush Babe

(@OnlyIonna)

xo

The Break Up

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(I love the film!)

*sigh* did you just break up? You’re probably, upset, hurt…. The list goes on. Well breathe and just read. Here are a few things I think you should do after a break up. By the way, these are just my opinions and what I have learnt, not facts. Everyone is different so what worked for me might not work for you.

There is no routine on what to do after a break up. No right or wrong. Remember that.

  1. What did YOU do? I know how easy it is to blame your ex but in reality there are two sides to every story. I’m sure at this point you remember every miserable thing s/he put you through but what did you do to contribute to this break up. Did you attempt to sort out your problems? Talk it out? Or you just complained to everyone on twitter about it? Be careful who you let in your relationship… (That’s coming later). But also be grown enough to accept your faults! Recognising and accepting both your faults will hopefully help you prevent making the same mistakes twice. I’m not saying blame yourself forever, it is very easy to do that… just know what part you played in it.

  1. Your Friends. Now I love my friends and I will forever but I am very careful of what I say. This is where being careful of who you let in your relationship comes in. I know some of you even go as far as calling them Ride or Dies but do you really need their input right now? Tell them you’ve broken up with whoever you’re with but until you’ve calmed down and sorted yourself out hold the details. The reason I say this? Your friends love you so much they might say or do whatever it takes to make you feel better. This is nice. However, telling your friends every dirty secret and making them hate someone they had no relation with is wrong. Also, your friends suggestions like bricking his house (I was going to but he lived too far kmt), throwing away those gifts you once loved might only fuel your anger. Tell them when you’re over it. When you’re not angry. However, everyone has that friend that is capable of being objective. You can tell them. They’ll probably start with asking you how you feel and what you did. Those are good friends. Making the recovery about YOU. Not your Ex. Also, do not go on social networks ranting about it. Some people might be happy you’re finally miserable, some might run to tell your ex and some might tell you things you do not need to here.

  1. Do something that feels good or something new. I know feeling sad is inevitable but going to the gym and going out in your freakum dress that will definitely get you attention and free drinks will make you feel good for a while! Trust me. Nothing better than looking good and being told by strangers or those who don’t say it all the time. Go out with your friends. Those who know how to have a good time regardless of where you end up. Go home after though. You might feel lonely but I’m not telling you to sleep with anyone that gives you a compliment that night -__-. Doing something new, you’re creating new memories… hopefully happy ones without them. Reminding yourself you don’t need them.

  1. Take time off from love. Don’t go rushing into anything. You do not need a rebound to get over them. No contact. Clear your mind. Make those changes. Only you will know what those changes are. After a while (in my opinion 30 – 60days), talk to them. If you truly want to end, end peacefully. You don’t need angry exes… Forgive and move on. I didn’t say forget. If it makes you feel better give him back his jumper and things that remind you of him or just put it away. You’re kind of going through a cleansing spell.

  1. Enjoy being single. No responsibilities. You can focus on you. When you find the real one looking after them isn’t a chore. So if you’re previous relationship was a chore and boring (same date every time. Dinner and or a movie every bloody time… BORING) enjoy being set free. Write down what you couldn’t do in that relationship and can do now. Then go do it. Enjoy it. All this new time use it on you. Not obsessing about the past but looking forward to the future.

  1. Lastly, don’t be bitter. This might take a while but let them know there are no hard feelings. Don’t seek revenge. Trust me karma is real. Let the forces of nature take care of that (lol I sound like a tree hugger). You might even salvage a friendship but keep your distance. No time for repeating mistakes. I’m not telling you to pretend everything is OK. If you feel telling them of the hurt will help lift a burden do it. It’s better face to face. (Not in a letter. You don’t know who they might show it to -­­____-). Being bitter makes it longer to recover. Let. It. Go and be happy. Live. Be patient. You never know when someone new is on their way. You don’t want your bitterness to get in the way.

Okay. That’s it for now. I’ve turned my blog post into an essay again. Lol. Any comments and questions don’t be scared … Back to Revision 😥

@OnlyIonna

Bush Babe xo

 

Sex is NOT that important.

I was asked to write about this 🙂

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To me.. Sex is just not that important.

I know some guys are probably thinking I should shut up lol but I’m not talking about making him wait for 90 days or whatever… I just don’t think it contributes that much to a relationship. I’ve read that it releases frustration and other stuff but I just don’t think that a relationship should be dependent on it. Here are a few reasons why:

  • Before sex comes communication and if you don’t have that in a relationship, it’s doomed.

Sex cannot make him stay. Love can. Sex and love are two different things. I mean, anyone can have sex but making love is special. You are connecting on another level. You fall in love with a person’s mind and who they are. Not how good they are in bed. I believe if a person is crap in bed they can be taught. Females can see a gynaecologist if lady bits aren’t reacting properly. He isn’t going to leave you because you don’t want to have sex! If he does…let him go. What good is a relationship if you cannot even talk about things? What, you just go to his house, lay down and say I love you baby? That’s not a relationship my darling. It is not at all.

  • It will be important in a marriage but focus on getting there. Before marriage you are still getting to know each other. (Mummy says you never really know someone until you live with them lol). It is a personal choice to wait until marriage and I am one to think that marriage makes “sex” more special. As a wife, it would mean making a priority of meeting his intimacy needs and saying he is more important than anything else especially when words fail. But as a girlfriend, you are just not there yet. Before you lay down with someone you must feel safe and secure – a feeling that is definitely involved in a marriage and not in a relationship (sometimes). This is simply because you are not ready. You are still learning how to be one. While lovers may naturally relate more deeply and honestly than friends, genital sex is by no means necessary for genuine community.
  • You know once you get married, sex dies down because there are other priorities in a family. If sex is what is holding you together and nothing else what happens then? Im sure you might start looking somewhere else to give you what sex gave you. Sex is not love. Love cannot be explained. It differs in relationships. Westerners see sex as something they are supposed to do. Its more than that. Everyone knows about soul ties and soul mates. When you’ve truly made one, they won’t be asking for sex. For anything. All they’ll want is to make you happy. Does sex make you happy? Maybe for 5 seconds or for long you can do it.
  • Love is not about meeting your needs. Before sex and even marriage you should see if you meet each other on the intellectual, physical, emotional and spiritual level.  Sex without a relationship will leave you empty and dissatisfied. Those who abstain from having sex weed out those who need just want sex and see those who want a genuine relationship. They want you for you who are, not the pleasure sex gives them. (Guys who lie about sex make me sick. Do not do it. You will have daughters and karma is very much real ^_^)
  • It has been reported than those who waited to be in a serious relationship or till marriage to have sex has a satisfaction rating of at least 4.2 out of 5 compared to the 3 out of 5 who didn’t wait. So ha. lol
  • Remember, you want love, not lust. True love will wait. True love will be felt emotionally and is not sexual desire. It is this emotion that will create the connection needed to a long lasting and genuine relationship. Sex might not even meet your partner’s needs. What are you going to do then? I have no idea who said that sex was a crucial and high priority matter in relationships. It draws attention away from the things that really matter like friendship, chemistry and communication. Don’t lose focus on why you love someone because of it! Sex won’t fix the problems you are having. It might even add to it.
  • There are ways to be intimate without sex. Go out. Explore your minds. Cook together. Gym together. Long walks. Talk about serious things. Communication is key. Can you be with someone you cannot talk to?! Show them you care without touching lol. This isn’t even a joke. I know some of you are thinking I’m talking about rubbish.
  • If you’re looking for something to last a lifetime, than basing sex as a very important factor in your relationship is not good. Very few keep the sexual pace up through their marriage. Everyone hits lulls and sex does drop off in frequency as the years go by. Love and sex are not the same thing; this is something some people never learn. Sex without love is just physical. Love without sex can be pure, spiritual and true. But sex with someone you love unequivocally, can be gentle and tender, hot and wild, comfortable or simply sublime. And don’t ever forget that the most important sexual organ is the brain.
  • It’s those relationships that are heavily based on sex that usually don’t wind up making it for very long. That’s because that while sex is an “important” part of a relationship, in the end it’s how you navigate the bad times that really define how strong your relationship is. Too many people are willing to bail when bad times happen because it’s easy to fix with a legal procedure and piece of paper, and sex is readily available elsewhere. In fact, over time if your relationship is based heavily on sex the boredom factor alone tends to lead people to cheat or split up, because they have no other solid foundation.

I will leave you with this -“We need to be patient with ourselves, and with each other, as we look to the future, trusting in the on-going process of Life. Let us each move in the direction of that form of inclusive, intimate love which is most appropriate for us, being true to ourselves and faithful to those with whom we are in a relationship.”

Loool I’ve written another essay. I’m sure there is much more to this. (let me know what you think! Comment and share).

Anything else you want me to write about?

@OnlyIonna

xo

Looking for “IT”. My thoughts…

Khalil Gibran
And think not you can
Direct the course of love,
For love,
If it finds you worthy,
Directs your course.

Okay. Yes.. this blog post is about love….

Before I found it I was definitely just in love with the idea of love. You know the “ don’t look for it, it’ll find you” thing always bugged me because if the two people who are meant to love each other just waited and never made choices that could help start that love that means they’ll never find it right? (That’s a lot of loves haha)

Anyway, I’m the kind of person that would fight for it if I believed it was possible or if there was a 1% chance that I could stay long enough for a person to grow to love me. Not the best approach, its torture.  (I’m meant to be revising lol) I have watched too many movies and yes I sort of believe in love at first sight or that your first could be the one. However, life played me.  I had to learn the right way that I shouldn’t look for it, it should be there and in most cases like mine it was right in front of me. We would find each other but not when I was focused on finding him…something else would bring us together, we would be friends, then best friends, then lovers, then partners and then man and wife.. you know where I’m going…

(Okay…where is THIS going?) There are three things that I think would help if you think about finding the one toooo much. I know girls do this…  ALOT. You have your height preference (silly), weight preference (that’s acceptable lol) and other things you’ve been thinking about thanks to life experience but the first thing is to be open minded…

Trust me… I knew I wasn’t going to end up with Brad Pitt or Denzel… when you find it, it is the personality and then appearance.. when you normally find someone who looks good and acts good and think they are the one… they are a douche. Being open-minded means getting to know the person first.. try and look past their face and body.. fall in love with their mind, their potential to be the man and woman you could possibly spend the rest of your life with. Not the sex, the money… no. I’m one to say sex doesn’t really matter because it can be taught. I don’t believe the kind of love between those who stay together forever because they want to can be. It must’ve been born with, and only that person can trigger it off (soul mates). Being open-minded really does help.. why put yourself in a box and happiness at risk because you want a partner that looks like a model but has a mind like a fish? Wake up… this is not the movies. Everything will NOT be okay just because you look good… Trust me, i fell in love with his mind and now he is the most beautiful person in the world.. he was just handsome before lol

The other thing is patience. Looking at my life plan.. I’m going to end up being at least 1 year behind schedule. (I was supposed to meet him when I was 16/17( which I did) date till we were 21 (that was three years late) and I am 20 now lol). I KNOW girls picture their future as soon as they sit down with a guy on a date.. ( do not lie!). And if there is no next date you’re really upset if it’s not your choice because you probably had the scene when you were meeting the in laws in your head. Take it sloooooooooooooooooow and easy. If it is meant to be it will be. Whether it takes three tries or more be patient with him or her. Baby steps… don’t crawl before yh you get it. You are both still growing and people change. You have got to be patient in finding it because you simply might not be ready. Focus on yourself and being a better person that can make not only yourself but future lover happy. Patience and wisdom go together. Don’t rush into anything. Think about it. It is your future. Patience also helps when you eventually do fall in love… “If you find true love, make sure you learn to keep it.” You have to be patient with them. Hear them out. Listen and understand. (I could go on all day)

The third and most important thing… learn to love yourself. When I was younger and I misbehaved, mother always used to say “ you obviously don’t love yourself because you are just making bad choices and causing stress!” I honestly used to think she was mad. Just mad. How can I not love myself? I do what I want when I want no matter what.. that must be love right? Doing what they want, when they want it, no matter what? I was stupid.. But not anymoreeeeeee J

Loving yourself is not just about you funnily enough. It affects everyone around you. Yes it includes making the right decisions, working hard not because of anyone but because of you. These choices will affect the lives of you and your loved ones. Loving yourself provides security. Men love secure women. Love yourself for everything that you are. Know that you are beautiful… if you don’t think you are change that! Gym.. learn about mascara.. do something. If it cannot be changed accept it and love it. Nothing worse than being with someone who is not supportive, has wandering eyes and taunts you with stupid questions like” what would you do if you found another girl in my bed?” -___- believe me . I have been asked that. Silly boy. But if you love yourself and are surrounded by good friends things like that wouldn’t affect you. Self love the centre of happiness, self-empowerment, and your ability to create love. We spend so much time waiting to be loved, hoping love will find us, searching, yearning for that special love but it all starts with you…

Okay.. I have to leave it there…revision..ugh (these are just my opinions by the way..) Suggest more things for me to blog about

@OnlyIonna.

xo

Product Review: Aubrey Glycogen Protein Balancing Conditioner

 

 

So… remember I wrote that if your hair was breaking it was either a moisture or protein problem? Since I use my Aussie Moisture Shampoo and conditioner without fail it was due to be a protein problem. While reading “The Science of Black Hair”, there was a list of conditioners given to battle this problem. The one that stood out to me was the Aubrey Glycogen Protein Balancing Conditioner.

 

 

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Okay, most of my hair products are not sold directly in the famous hair shops like PAKS and if they are, they are normally so much more so for this I went straight to eBay. It was £10.51. When it comes to my hair I never let money get in the way but this is a bit pricey. It wasn’t as big as a Tresemme bottle would be for that price but if it fixed my hair problem who cares?

This is what it said on the bottle:

 

For All Hair Types

Feed your hair a healthy, balanced diet with our #1-selling conditioner.Nutrient-rich, protein-based GPB re hydrates and re energizes your hair, strengthens hair fibre and repairs damage from salon treatments to restore softness, manageability and shine. Our most popular product ever

FEATURES:Milk Protein.     

BENEFITS:Rich in cysteine and methionine; strengthens and mends damaged areas

FEATURES: Organic Aloe.  

BENEFITS: Replenishes moisture

FEATURES: Glycoprotein & Horsetail Extract. 

BENEFITS:Balance & fortify hair & scalp “

 

It is also an organic vegan product consisting of mainly if not all natural products which is nice for those like me who do not like any chemicals at all on their hair. There was no particular smell to it (or maybe my nose is broken) and the bottle was nothing special. Everything was simple, even the instructions…. -” Apply to the hair and comb through then let it sit 15 minutes”.

Now, prior to using this, my hair was breakiiiinnnnnnnnng. I should have taken a before and after picture. Washing my hair was a nightmare because I always thought I was losing toooooo much hair :’(. However, after using this, it is so much more manageable! The breaking is almost at a halt. There is some shedding but that is natural but it is sooooooooo minimal! I am definitely a happy bush babe. I would recommend this only if you have done a moisture treatment and noticed that it was not a moisture problem. Also, it has one of my favourite ingredients for moisture (Aloe) so in fact it may tackle both!

I did read that you should not use it every week so maybe every two weeks to once a month is good. Use this along with taking the right vitamins and eating right and I’m sure your hair will be right in no time!

Overall I’d give it a 4/5 because I have only used it once and so far so good. If anything changes I will give an updated review.

Bush Babe

xo